Dr. Gary Chapman has helped millions prepare for marriage.
Now he helps you prepare for kids.
Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Became Parents has one goal: prepare you to raise young children.
Dr. Gary Chapman—longtime relationship expert and author of the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages—teams up with Dr. Shannon Warden—professor of counseling, wife, and mother of three—to give young parents a book that is practical, informed, and enjoyable.
Together they share what they wished they had known before having kids. For example: children affect your time, your money, and your marriage—and that's just the beginning. With warmth and humor they offer practical advice on everything from potty training to scheduling, apologizing to your child, and keeping your marriage strong… all the while celebrating the great joy that children bring.
From the Preface: "Our desire is to share our own experiences, as well as what we have learned through the years, as we have counseled hundreds of parents. We encourage you to read this book before the baby comes, and then refer to its chapters again as you experience the joys and challenges of rearing children." — Dr. Gary Chapman
Yet again, Gary Chapman delivers a solid and practical resource for life. Together with Dr. Shannon Warner, Dr. Chapman prepares couples to become parents by exploring topics and questions he (Chapman) would like to have known before having children. Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents should be given to every married couple preparing to expand their family through birth or adoption.
Chapman and Warner write honestly; they present possible struggles realistically, but they also recognize the immense joy and satisfaction that can come from raising children. The discussion questions included with each chapter are thorough and creative. Some of the discussions and activities prompted by these questions will likely be remembered long after the reader puts down the book. For instance, my husband and I read Chapman’s Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married several years ago and we still reminisce about one of the discussion questions we talked about at that time.
Additionally, while culture, including Christian culture, emphasizes preparation for children in the realm of fashionable nurseries, do-it-yourself baby food and baby toys, and gift registries, Chapman and Warner present content for new parents. This reality-check content is often overlooked in the midst of social media, pictures, and dreams.
I highly recommend Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents. Even though I do not have children, I think the questions Chapman highlights encourage honest discussion between husband and wife that would be beneficial for any marriage.
Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, “Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents” was outstanding. In this book, Dr. Chapman gives practical tips on preparing for the arrival of your child. He covers everything from your changing schedule to the joy children bring. In chapter 8, he says, “Apologizing and forgiving are essential to maintaining good relationships. Children need to learn these skills because they too will not be perfect.” This statement is worth the entire book. I think sometimes parents feel like they are above human. He continues by saying, “Most of us learned to apologize or not to apologize from our parents.” This is so true.
There are a several things that can help any couple to prepare for children. I will revisit this book throughout the years as my children grow up.
I highly recommend this book to all present and future parents.