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You know you love your child. But how can you make sure your child knows it?
The #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages® has helped millions of couples learn the secret to building a love that lasts. Now discover how to speak your child's love language in a way that he or she understands. Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell help you:
Plus: Find dozens of tips for practical ways to speak your child's love language.
Discover your child's primary language—then speak it—and you will be well on your way to a stronger relationship with your flourishing child.
For a free online study guide, visit 5lovelanguages.com.
I've read a lot of these love language books. Each one, while similar, offer different perspectives and different advice. Each person is unique in what they need and each book is unique in its own way. I'm a huge fan of Chapman. He's a really smart man. Did he have his faults? Oh I'm sure! But his advice is excellent.
First thing I realized reading this book is that both of my children have different love languages. Second thing I realized is that I was lacking. We've all read or heard of the love languages. The five ways a person feels loved. But did any of us think that it also applied to children? I didn't. When I thought of love languages I thought of a relationship between two people. This book has opened my eyes.
Any love, in any form, can be spoken to through a love language. There are five of them and each individual person fits into all five in some way. The one that most fits with you, is your given language. Me, I have two that basically tie together as my language. Both make me feel loved.
Immediately, I was able to pick out my 9 year old daughters love language. My five year old- she was a little harder. She's so different from day to day in the way she acts it's hard to pinpoint. This book is based off school aged children, mainly I think because they are old enough to have shown what they need for love. A smaller child is going through changes and hasn't really grown into themselves yet.
One of the best things about the book is, Gary Chapman uses biblical principles, personal experiences, and tips on how to best speak each language. This is a must have book for any parent. Any parent. Raising a child is a hard thing, and having the tools to make sure your child grows up in a loving home is very important.
It also teaches that every child is different, which is something a lot of parents can forget. Myself included. I know from time to time I've said, why can't you be more like your sister... or, your sister didn't react that way when she got into trouble. I guess I never realized that punishing with what makes the child feel loved cuts really deep for them and hurts in a way that we shouldn't be hurting our children.
I recommend this book to anyone who has or is thinking about having a child. It's based mainly for school aged children, but it's very helpful and informationa
I am a big fan of Gary Chapman works and read his 5 love languages before getting married and it is so applicable in understanding ones spouse so now that I have a child I was eager to read his book about the love languages of children and I am not disappointed! Even though my little one is only a year I can already see that physical touch is a huge deal to her and is her primary love language and this book really helps me understand how to express love to her and help her feel loved. It is such a valuable book and is so direct and to the point. All in all an excellent parenting resource that one should have on hand!
Finding love languages are such a vital part of healthy relationships - it is so crazy how not understanding these can be so damaging in a marriage, for example. Being familiar with love languages, this book intrigued me because it deals with children. Since my husband and I both know each others love languages, we know the value and want to find out our son's love language also - so turned to this book.
This book is a thorough presentation, as to be expected from these authors. It is full of real life type examples to help you to identify love languages in children, which is helpful. There is a chapter for each love language as it relates to children:
1. Physical Touch
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Quality Time
5. Acts of Service
One of the things I thought interesting was the section on how to respect your child's love language. In particular he gave an example of how to choose the best method of discipline depending on your child's love language. That you could potentially cause great emotional pain if you discipline them with the very thing they rely on for love e.g.. Condemning words if a child's love language is 'words of affirmation' or spanking if a child's love language is 'physical touch' or isolation if their language is 'quality time'.
Also included is a very valuable section on anger and dealing with or managing it correctly and teaching your children how to do the same. There is also a section dealing with divorce situations and single parent families.
I also really love the bullet point sections included on ideas of things you can do for your child for each love language. This book is a valuable resource for parents and something so important to be aware of to ensure your child feels loved and gets what they need from you.
I highly recommend this book.