Parenting strategies you can be proud of
You know the feeling. You got frustrated, desperate, or overwhelmed and you reacted before you could think it through. Whether it's a one-time thing or it becomes a habit, we all parent in ways we don't like. But it doesn't have to continue. Whether it's bribery, yelling, counting to three, or threats of punishment you didn't mean to make, reacting never feels good. But if you can learn to act with intentionality, you'll feel better about your choices and be grateful for the results.
Dr. Kathy Koch (pronounced “cook”), author of Screens and Teens and 8 Great Smarts, will teach you proven strategies for training your child's heart and parenting in a way that honors God. She'll help you move your child from, “I can't, I won't," to “I can, I will, and I did.” We can do better than “Because I said so.” or “No screen time for 3 days.” We can do better than mere behavior modification. We can change our children's hearts and teach them to do what is good, godly, and right even when we're not around. Once you've learned to put these motivation strategies in place there's no more need to nag, you'll be astounded at what your kids will do without being asked. Dr. Kathy doesn't offer a quick-fix. Starting with the heart is all about changing what children believe in order to change their behavior. And learning to use this kind of motivation takes effort, consistency, and strategy, but it works. And it's never too late! If you're willing to commit to a little hard work up front, you'll enjoy your kids, your life, and yourself much more when you learn to start with the heart.
I was so excited to be able to receive an advance copy of “Start With the Heart” from Moody Publishers. It is full of practical wisdom and encouragement for everyday moms and dads. I love that the book gave real-life examples and actual tactics to use in parenting. Sometimes we do need a script! We have children ages 11, 9, 6, and 3, and I have been able to employ ideas from the book in parenting each one of my children. Sadly, it can be easy for me to see my children and parenting as a task to complete or manage. I loved how the book puts relationships first and gives me a framework for parenting with the end in mind. The book has really challenged me to see my kids as individuals and to really seek to truly understand them. Because of the book, I have seen positive changes in how I am dealing with discipline and issues of motivating my kids. I loved the book so much that I am leading a book club about it with a bunch of my friends this spring. Every Christian parent should read this book! It is a great size to put in your purse and read nuggets throughout the day when you can squeeze it in. Just make sure you have a highlighter handy though, because there is so much to take note of! Overall, an easy and practical read that has had a lasting impact on me! Thanks to Dr. Kathy Koch for helping parents yet again with her wisdom in this book.
Dr. Kathy Koch has presented such a wonderful book in Start with the Heart. This book offers fun, practical ways to engage with our children’s hearts. In this book she discuss the 5 core needs that we all as humans need to have meet to have solid relationships. This part of the book has been insightful for me as I know some of my own shortcomings come from not having those needs met. So I have been trying to use her practical advice to get to my children’s hearts. There is a specific quote that has stuck out to me in the book: “When you encourage your children, you give them courage.” This quote is one I have been specifically using to encourage my own children. Another thing I have loved is using the word consequences instead of punishment. Because there can be both negative and positive consequences. This one has helped with our children learning to be responsible for their choices. This book is encouraging, challenging, and all around a great resource for anyone who deals with kids. Thanks to Moody, I was able to read the book early.