How to raise a godly man in a godless world
Perhaps there has never been a more challenging time to raise children than in today's culture. Parents are having to address challenges that their parents never had to with them. And while the core elements to raising children are the same, parents need wisdom for applying them to this day and age.
That's what this book is about: navigating the times and raising a generation of men on godly principles—sons who are ready, able, and motivated to represent God during their days of sojourning on this earth. Pastor and author Mike Fabarez will help parents pass the faith on to their sons, in prayer that the promises of God extend to the third and fourth generations… and beyond.
Parents will be equipped to:
There is an epidemic of grown men with the maturity of young boys. Be a parent who saves your child from prolonged adolescence. Scripture says, “The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him” (Prov. 23:24). Children are a gift from the Lord. Read Raising Men, Not Boys to steward the gift of parenting and shepherd your sons to be men of God.
What an apt title for my stage of life. I’ve got 1 boy and another on the way. So when I saw Make Fabarez’s new book, I knew I had to get it!
And I’m glad I did! Raising Men, Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons to Be Men of God. Mike writes from years of experience, and shares much wisdom about principles, tips and tricks he’s learned along the way of raising his children.
Covering topics like your boy’s future, spiritual trajectory, work ethic, money and possessions, interacting with women, and the teen years, Fabarez derived much of his thoughts from Scripture and brought it into real life, practical scenarios. I also found his balance between parenting “musts” and preferences to be well-handled.
Perhaps my favorite chapter was chapter 4, “Quell the Rebellion of His Sinful Heart”. He had helpful advice on rule-keeping, direction, discipline, and the need of the gospel to produce true heart-transformation.
So, thank you Mike for sharing with us your years of wisdom!
I have a book to recommend to all Christian parents raising boys, this is a book we all should read. No matter the age of your son(s), this is a great book and resource. Mike Fabarez wrote Raising Men Not Boys~Shepherding Your Sons To Be Men of God, for this mama, well and I am sure many of you too! The Lord knew I need a book like this to help me understand what our boys need in raising them. The author provides real-life examples, along with Biblical references to support what we need to be doing as parents in training and disciplining our boys.
Mike Fabarez's Raising Men, Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons to Be Men of God dares to venture into territory that gripes every parent's imagination in our culture: How to raise godly children.
Parents find themselves dealing with challenges that simply didn't exist in their childhoods, and dealing with them drawing upon resources that are already strained. In years gone by, stronger extended family networks and social fabrics like church had a greater impact and role in a parent's ability to raise men and not boys. Now, those two are both in tatters, and have left parents more alone than ever. Into that void steps Fabarez with a gift.
This book is that gift. Raising Men, Not Boys offers hope, as parents envision what kind of man they want their boys to become, and to live in that reality -- not this one.
Just as their environment for parenting has changed, the environment in which children grow and mature has also changed. Fabarez tackles those changes with grace and wisdom as well. From redefining play and leisure to offering hope for the teenage years, Fabarez has certainly spoken a timely and fitting message in this book.
This is a desperately needed book, and one that belongs in the hands of every parent who feels incompetent for the task ahead.
Add another good resource to the list of books available for Christian parents seeking to raise their boys to be God-fearing young men. The clear purpose of the book is to explain biblical principles and illustrate various ways they can be lived out by parents as they seek to shepherd sons into mature godly men in the 21st century.
In the introduction, Fabarez is clear (pp. 14-15) to recognize some of the ideas he suggests are simply applications of the way their family has sought to live out the biblical truths and principles. He recognizes some of the specifics covered are biblical and others are simply his interpretation and extrapolation of important areas of life and encourages the reader to consider the respective levels of importance in following the ideas.
In terms of strengths, there are many. First, the author covers all the key areas of raising a boy from infancy to early adulthood. In doing so, there are plenty of practical examples of how a biblical principle works out in practice. Fabarez included various "What About That…" sections within the book that were beneficial and helpful in dealing with sidebar topics related to the topic of the chapter. Fabarez also dealt with potentially touchy or awkward subjects with a good mix of sensitivity and reality (eg. single moms raising boys). Each chapter contained clear section markings and the topics were discussed logically. Thus, the book was easy to follow and a joy to read, without becoming monotonous or repetitive.
There is little to offer by way of criticism for this book. Fabarez achieved his stated purpose. As noted in the introduction, parents should seek other sources of input and wisdom as their son matures. Likewise, while other parenting books may be foundational to reading a book like this (or complementary), this is one I will keep on my shelf, and gladly recommend to students or families with boys.
I loved everything about this book. The subtitle says, Shepherding Your Sons to Be Men of God, and shepherding is the perfect term for the parenting he endorses. He doesnt promote an overly authoritarian, dictator style, and in fact puts as much responsibility on the parents to exhibit the kind of character they wish to see as he does on the sons. But he also stresses the importance of firmly and resolutely correcting our sons and directing them down the path of Godly manhood.
This book covers an impressive range of topics, including physical activity, work ethic and responsibility, encounters with the opposite sex, the teen years, rebellious hearts, and finances. It also teaches parents how to create a home environment that builds Godly men, lead by example, and discipline effectively. It was both highly motivating and highly informative.
I very much enjoyed his writing, as well. He struck a perfect balance between strong imperatives and understanding encouragement. He wasnt afraid to push parents and say the tough things, but it never came across as judgmental. I never felt beat over the head or condemned just motivated.
This is a book I will want to read more than once. Its not a very long book, but it packs a powerful punch in a relatively short package. There is so much wisdom to be gleaned in it, and though I kept a running list of favorite quotes (my standard practice with any book I read), I know one reading wont do it justice.
Great topic for this day and age, and this book is loaded with great, Biblical teaching and ideas. Mike doesn't beat around the bush at all and gets straight to the point of raising our sons in a Biblical way that honors God. He addresses the new cultural norms regarding gender and other similar issues and urges parents to hold fast to Biblical values in training their boys to be Men of God.
As a mother of a son, I found this book
encouraging and supportive. I appreciated the ideas of how to develop him further and prepare him for manhood - which as he states is a parents role in raising children. He reminds us as parents to keep our eyes on this goal which is, to prepare our children to be followers after God who can live Godly, righteous lives and lead a household and so on. He focuses a lot of the importance of marriage and preparing our sons for marriage by mentioning that one day when they are married... or modeling for them how we cherish our spouses etc. He speaks of having sons in church so they have many Godly role models around them.
There is a lot more in this book - it is an easy read and full of real quality information for parents. I would definitely recommend this book!