Finally, a practical book for busy parents!
Whether you find parenting intuitive or impossible, we could all use a hand here and there. And we could use it quick! In 8 Simple Tools, child psychologist and father Todd Cartmell walks you through the nuts and bolts of healthy, effective parenting.
Using examples from his home and 20 years of professional practice, Todd gives eight essential and practical tools to help you:
Designed with busy parents in mind, 8 Simple Tools breaks each tool into five short chapters, perfect for when you only have a second. Plus, each chapter ends with a practical “Tip” section that summarizes the main point and helps you apply it right away.
Use even half of the tools in your parenting, and your family dynamics will thrive. Your relationship will be built on love and trust, providing you with fertile ground for planting God's wisdom in your child's heart and, ultimately, seeing your child flourish.
This book gave me some tools for raising my son. I was especially blessed by chapter 24, "Finding The Solution." In this chapter Dr. Todd gives some steps in teaching kids problem-solving. S - Stop, T - Think of possible solutions, E - Evaluate the solutions, P - Pick a solution, and S - See if it worked. This chapter is worth the time and effort of reading this book. Some children today are clueless when it comes to solving problems. This is part of critical thinking skills. The Lord Jesus in Matthew 22 gives us the greatest commandment, which is to love the Lord with all of our existence. Part of the fulfillment of this commandment is to love the Lord with all our minds. Mindless Christianity isn't biblical. Helping our children to think through problems and work on solutions is helping them to glorify God with their minds. This book gives some wonderful nuggets on how to empower our children to become faithful believers and agents of the cross in this world. The 8 simple tools are talking, listening, influencing, connecting, teaching, encouraging, correcting, and leading. These biblical principles will empower any parent to minister effectively to their children. I highly recommend this book to all especially to those with little children.
I was excited to receive this book as I am just starting out this parenting journey and I am wanting all the help I can get as I navigate these unknown waters. This book was every bit as good, if not better, than I was hoping. Filled with practical advice, this book was simple and yet very efficient. It breaks things down into short chapters that make it seem more manageable and easy to grasp even for those who aren't big readers. I appreciated the psychology behind many of his ideas, it all really makes sense!
I highly recommend this books for all parents out there no matter your child's age!
Your child is only small for a short while...before you know it, they are all grown up and moving out to live their own lives. I pray every night that I am raising them to be great people, it's my most important job. Sometimes I'm confident that I'm doing it all right, then there are days where I'm not so sure.
"8 simple tools for raising great kids" by clinical child psychologist Dr. Todd Cartmell. As the title suggests, it offers 8 simple tools to help parents build a healthy relationship with their child, develop a nurturing home and ways to correct behaviour that are lasting and meaningful.
The book is designed with busy parents in mind. Each "Tool" is broken down into short chapters. I like how the authors uses every day words that I can understand. Each chapter has a "Tip" at the end which is a short summary of the already short chapter. There is also a "Consider" section that poses questions for the reader to reflect on.
Since each chapter is short I can not only read it quickly, but I can immediately begin to practice the new skills I have learned. They are never anything complicated and you don't need any special training or tools.
The book isn't just about raising great kids, I find it's also about becoming a great parent. The tools aren't just about fixing issues with your child, but about reflecting on your own parenting style and things that may need to be changed.
While it is a faith based book, you are not hit over the head with scripture references. While the book does contain scripture references, anyone would take something away from this book. There were two big takeaways for me from this book. One for me, and one for my children.
The first was on listening. I always believed listen was with your ears, but I soon learned differently. You listen with your whole body. Your eyes, ears, mouth, neck to your knees and feet are all involved. Who knew that your feet were involved in listening? I sure didn't.
The second thing that I took away from this book was teaching my children problem solving steps. Using the acronym "STEPS" both the kids and I are able to work through problems in a logical fashion.
S - Stop
T - Think of possible solutions
E - Evaluate the solution
P - Pick a solution
S - See if it worked
Such a simple way to remember how to work through any issue. This really works for adults and children alike. Stopping for a moment to gather your thoughts and feelings really helps put any issue into perspective. Knowing that you have a plan to solve any issue helps you feel empowered.
Parenting can be a challenge, even with the most easy going child. The book really points out several common sense solutions to effective parenting that can be used by anyone. Each tip can be easily put into practice, some will require more work than others.
The website for the book contains two parenting assessments to discover how effective your parenting is and what are your parenting strengths.
"8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids" will give parents the right tools to help build a great relationship with their child. Even if you don't use all the tools in the book, even implementing a few will help your child, marriage and family thrive.
*Disclosure: I received a complimentary copy of "8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids" in exchange for my review. All opinions are 100% my own.
This is a very easy to read book. It is divided into 8 sections of 5 short chapters (5 pages or less) each, which makes it simple to read about each tool on its own.
There are stories included in each section of actual situations where the tools were used, showing how each one can make a real difference in the parent-child relationship.
While the book is largely psychological, there are also scripture and scriptural principles included. Each chapter also ends with a brief one or two sentence tip which sums up the main point--and there are four pages at the back of the book which put all those tips together in one place.
If you have been searching for just the right book to help bring peace to your family. To end the bickering and struggles. If you want a book that is simple to read yet touches on all the tough topics of raising kids, you really need to grab yourself a copy of 8 Simple Tools for Raising Great Kids! I have enjoyed reading this book. It was not a chore like some parenting books, only to be left on the shelf halfway finished. I finished this book before I realized it and was ready to read it all over again! With 4 kids being homeschooled and running a blog, finding a book like that is awesome!!
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