Is your tween prepared for what's ahead?
It used to be that middle school was the time to talk to kids about topics like modesty and body image. Unfortunately, the at-risk demographic for distorted views on the body is now girls ages 8–10. Fortunately, Dannah Gresh has provided a resource for this need.
Secret Keeper Girl is geared to helping tween girls understand their dignity in Christ. It features a creative self-help text format that includes sidebars, quizzes, games, exploded quotes, and graphics to help them absorb the message.
Here's what author Dannah Gresh has to say about the motivation behind the book: “My past fifteen years of studying at-risk teen and tween behavior has over and over again led me to good news: girls who are exposed to an age-appropriate, Bible-based understanding of beauty and fashion between the ages of 8-12 tend to be less likely to engage in early sexual activity or have body image issues. They are also more likely to have healthy friendships, excel academically, and become positive social contributors in their communities, all while expressing their beauty and value appropriately.
"It's not rocket science. It is social science paired with a whole lot of prayer and Bible study. We can change what tween girls see when they look in the mirror by changing what's inside their hearts.”
This is the heart behind Secret Keeper Girl: a desire to teach tween girls how valuable they are and how to honor their God-given dignity. Ultimately, it's about grounding girls in their identity in Christ so the tumultuous teen years don't uproot them.
This book pairs with Secret Keeper Girl Mom-Daughter Devos, allowing moms a helpful resource for walking through this formative time with their tween girl.
This book came at the perfect time for my pre-teen fourth grader!
I’m not even sure she realized the comparisons that were already starting to pop up on her radar and amongst her peers. This vulnerable age requires unique guidance, and Dannah Gresh does a phenomenal job at meeting girls where they are at. In this new phase of their lives, she guides them by providing powerful Scriptures and breaking them down in a way that they can easily apply them to their everyday lives. For example, Gresh incorporates Titus 2:12, “God wants us to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures and live good, God-fearing lives day after day,” to open up a discussion about living according to God’s standards versus the world’s.
“So, grab the cute dress. Sew some funky patches onto your worn-out jeans. Have a facial night with your BFF! These things aren’t bad or sinful in and of themselves, but BE CAREFUL about why you like them.” – Dannah Gresh, Secret Keeper Girl: The Power of Modesty.
My daughter picked this book up and started glancing through it before I finished it and passed it on to her. The way that it is put together, weaving eye-grabbing graphics, pulled-out quotes and verses, and cute cartoon character pictures, grabbed her interest immediately. Plus, what pre-teen girl isn’t curious about secrets?
As a parent, I feel better equipped to meet my daughter in conversation about modesty on her level. Thank you for your faithfulness to write this book, Dannah!
As the mother of an 11 year old girl, I was thrilled to get this book. This is a harsh world to grow up in as a young lady and this book guides girls in how to dress but also stresses the importance of seeing ourselves the way God sees us. This book is a great resource for not only girls in the “tween” age but was also a nice read for this 37 year old girl. I still find myself looking at my flaws with sadness or frustration and this book reminded me that true beauty comes from the inside.
Broken down into several “secrets” of true beauty and modesty, the book is easy and very fun to read. Each secret includes a biblical reference and Dannah Gresh really breaks each concept down in an easy to read, fun way that is relateable to young girls.
The book is full of colorful pictures and visual aids that make it very inviting and fun to read.
Gresh illustrates sin in a way that I have never seen before and it was a great way to analyze the “grey areas” of our lives (like the clothing we choose to wear). I also loved how Gresh emphasizes that we should be looking to glorify God and not ourselves, which more and more is the opposite of what the world tells us.
I highly, highly recommend this book to all girls, ages 8 and up. It would be a great book for mothers and daughters to read together. It would also make a great Bible study or Sunday School curriculum. This is such an important topic that doesn’t seem to be addressed enough.
My Rating: 5 stars
This cute, little, full-color book covers seven different topics related to beauty and modesty. The book is short, easy to read, and relevant to tween girls.
Dannah Gresh's seven beauty secrets include ones such as "Secret 2: True beauty doesn't come from what's on the outside." And "Secret 4: God wants nothing we wear to distract from seeing our true beauty." She even included a mini history lesson on fashion and how it has become increasingly immodest.
I appreciated how the author emphasized that modesty isn't about a bunch of rules but about your heart. She does include some fun "Truth or Bare" fashion tests such as seeing if your belly shows when you raise your hands. But the fashion tests are the very end of the book. She does a great job explaining in appropriate language why girls should even care if their tummies show.
She has scripture verses throughout the book as well supporting her statements.
I would recommend this to any tween girls to read. It's a great starting point for conversations about fashion that will hopefully reach the heart and go beyond just "Change your outfit! You can't go out in that."