An indispensable resource on what everyone needs: a mentor
Whether you have a mentor, can't seem to find one, or haven't even thought to look, Jayme Hull walks you through every aspect of this critical relationship, including:
Packed with stories and anecdotes from Jayme's experience as both a mentor and mentee—plus sprinklings of wisdom on balance, purpose, and change—Face to Face speaks to the heart of young Christian women eager to grow. In her warm, personable style, Jayme offers expert advice on how to journey well with someone further along.
I love Jayme's warm, conversational style in writing this book. She knows how to reach out to millennials. She includes things that they care about: dreams and potential for the future, as well as wrestling through the gap of struggling to get started in life. Her own examples of trying to find her life purpose and starting her own mentor relationship makes the book feel like you're sitting down for a cup of chai and some good advice from a woman who cares about you.
The beauty of Face to Face is that it doesn't stay in the realm of the theoretical, but spends most of it's time on practical action steps readers can take to develop a mentor relationship. You won't walk away from this book only thinking "I wish I had a mentor." You'll also walk away thinking "I have some ideas on how to find one." Jayme gives tips on where to meet, what characteristics to look for in a mentor, and how to care about them as well as having them care for you.
It's easy to look at the description of a book like this and think "I don't have a mentor, and no one would do this for me." Not only is it possible, but we've also probably had mentoring more than we realize. While not discounting our need for regular meetings with a one-on-one, heart-to-heart mentor, Jayme gives examples of people who have mentored us. Coaches or teachers, friends, parents, Bible study leaders. I've never had a formal one-on-one mentor. I've always wanted one. But I have had mentors who have generously given time, effort, love, and listening ears to me. They've been both women older than me and peers. People I can text writing questions pretty much any time, and they'll answer. Parents I can talk to late at night, when life's problems seem to want to be solved. Women who have prayed for me, held me while I cried, sent Scripture and encouragement, and seen my potential. I wouldn't be where I am without the informal mentors who have poured so much love into me.
But the one-on-one kinds are important too. I know it would help in a few ways to know someone to meet regularly and talk through some issues I've walked through. Jayme gives some great ideas for getting to know someone like that. She walks through how to ask someone, how to deal with feelings if they say no, how to judge if you're both a good fit, and how to work through differences of opinion or uncomfortable moments that might arise. I especially appreciated her advice on that last part, because I want to know how to navigate the hard parts of navigating the human side of a good relationship.
The last chapters on balance, romance, and getting out of stuck spots in life seemed a little more life advice and less geared towards how a mentor could help with those things. While they were good advice, I thought they wandered from the heart of the book. But those are issues that Jayme encouraged readers to discuss with their mentors, so it all ultimately ties together, and they were really good chapters in themselves.
I suppose the only danger from this book could be reading it, agreeing with it, and walking away without taking action steps. As you read, take the time to ponder and pray, make lists of people you are being mentored by, and people you might want to be mentored by--or issues you want to be mentored in. (I'm talking to myself here, too. *makes note to Schuyler*)
Then make the first meeting. Don't jump into asking them to be your mentor just yet. Just get to know them, let them get to know you, and then ask them if they might be interested in a formal mentoring relationship.
And if you're scared, or need some words to say, then pick up Face to Face. It's an engaging read, rich with content and practical suggestions. You won't regret it.
Faith is a journey and at times it can be a difficult one. One that is best not taken alone. We need to have the strength and courage to ask tough questions. We also need to have the wisdom to discern where God may be leading us. Also we know as Christians, we have the Holy Spirit to guide us, it is important to also have a safe person, a mentor, to come along beside us to help us on our journey. Not to give advice necessarily, but to help us sort out the messiness of our questions, doubts, and confusion. The mentor can also help to sort out what our true identity is in Christ and how it looks to live that out.
This book is an excellent place to start on what to look for in a mentor and how the mentoring relationship works. It is geared for a younger woman looking for a mentor. It is also a call for older women to be there for younger women, The author shares many personal stories along the way with truths she has learned both as a mentee and a mentor. There are many helpful questions at the end of each chapter to get started on the mentoring journey. This would be an excellent resource for any women's ministry group.
This book on mentoring is Much needed in today's fast paced world wherein we loose human contact in our social media age. This book beautifully depicts a most fundamental example of discipleship that Jesus showed to us in his example of life to life discipleship. Mentoring is that as Jayme so eloquently, authentically shares with readers. She shares deep truths of the Christian faith in a page turner that captivates ones attention from the first page:) A must read for every church member!