Foster good habits. Press into pain. Never, ever get another perm.
Despite what many think, our twenties aren't that dead space between youth and real life. Done right, they can be among our most important years.
In 20 Things We'd Tell Our 20-Something Selves, college professors Peter and Kelli Worrall look back on it all—the good, the bad, and the miserable—to give you the best of what they've learned. With humility, warmth, and brilliant storytelling, they invite you not only into their wisdom but into their lives, sharing about faith, marriage, drawn-out adoptions, dark nights of the soul, and the God who's in it all.
20 Things is more than a list of advice; it's a book that can change your life. Let the trend of your twenties be sowing wisdom, and who knows what the rest of life will bring?
Includes action steps, discussion questions, and ideas for further reading at the end of each chapter.
As believers, we know that everything in our lives God works together for good in the end. We know that we go through experiences to learn pivotal lessons for our growth, to become sanctified, and to transform more into the image of Christ. But that doesn't mean that we can't soak up great advice in the process. That we can't take all the wisdom we can get BEFORE the storm in the valley and apply it so that we grow quicker and experience less heartache. That's what this book is all about. We gain real wisdom from those who have walked before us. This book brings to us real life application and reflection on where we are at this stage, our 20's. It questions everything and makes us really stop and think and examine ourselves. Our motives. Our choices. Our mindsets. I could not get enough of it. The lessons I took from this book will stick with me forever, and I know the friends I have been sharing it with will gain so much from it as well. Kelli and Peter write with honesty and grace and meet us right where we are and I am forever grateful.
This is one of those books you could use as a devotional or just as a book to keep you company. The Worralls write as if they were seated across from you on the couch--and I wish they were. ;) They make you laugh with stories, but yet challenge you to think deeper and produce actions consistent with biblical living.
I requested this book for review after a friend reviewed it, and I'm quite pleased to add it to my library. Kelli and Peter Worrall discuss major topics that most 20somethings will end up thinking about. Things like habits, doubts, self-care, sin in yourself and family and others around you, grace, healing, and an eternal perspective. Each chapter begins with a short introduction based on the chapter title. I haven't seen another book do that before, and I enjoyed it very much. Just knowing the topics and the outcome from each chapter even before I started reading it was refreshing.
The Worralls give kind advice, not shirking from calling out sin, but yet providing grace instead of judgment and condemnation. Every chapter includes "actions to consider", "questions for reflection and discussion", and "other things to read" at the end of it. I very much appreciated the practicality of their suggestions, and the reflection questions were excellent. Perhaps one day I will go through and use the book as a devotional and journal my answers. The reading suggestions were also interesting to me, as I'm always on the lookout for reading material.
I love how the Worralls are parents with children, and yet they can write a book specifically for 20somethings. I think many older people are so far from their 20s, that they've forgotten what it's like. And the teenagers are just a little below the 20s, so they aren't able to process it all either. But this couple sounds like they're living in it, and take joy in it. I'm sure it comes from daily counseling and teaching teenagers and 20somethings.
My favorite chapters would be #15 (Embrace Grace) and #16 (Seek Healing) [but it's hard to pick favorites--most of the chapters would have to be "my favorites" :P]. I appreciated the honesty that the Worralls share with their readers--not hiding the messy parts of their lives, but sharing them as they went and giving us insight into how they sought grace and healing for their struggles and challenges. And because of those challenges, they were equipped to teach and counsel others, not because they necessarily have the exact experience, but because they know themselves how God can heal. As they have received grace, so they have given to others throughout this book.
This book blessed me in many ways. I highly recommend it.
It's amazing, the roundabout ways God will take to send you exactly the book you need. My mom heard about 20 Things on a radio advertisement for Moody Radio, I thought I had heard of it before and looked it up on my book blogger program. It was available, so I requested it.
Little did I know just how amazing it was going to be.
I spent a Sunday afternoon at the beach learning--growing--resting--praying. I read a few sections, pondered a few minutes, wandered down the beach and read more--read it on a swing, on the sand, on a boardwalk bench, in the back of our van. I even underlined and marked in it, which is something rare for me.
Peter and Kelli taught me that it's OK to feel emotions, and how to process them. They taught me that sometimes emotions that you don't understand and don't expect come from trauma you haven't healed--and everyone needs to heal their trauma. They taught me that mentors may be many different people teaching us many different things. They taught me to feed my soul and learn to rest properly. They taught me how to plan good habits.
One morning the following week, I woke up amazed and delighted with the knowledge that I am loved--and let my mind linger over the Creator's love for me. That made such a better way to start the day than my normal worrying, wrestling, or busyness. That came from the section on "Living Loved". I've been lingering over and applying different sections of the book ever since I turned the last page.
Kelli and Peter are engaging authors. They have the gift of knowing and sympathizing with what life is like as a twenty-something. Each chapter is packed with advice, and while there were a few sections I struggled to understand and process correctly (Take Sin Seriously often turned into taking sin too seriously, and processing emotions can quickly get way too complicated for me) on the whole I was blessed. It felt like drinking a cold glass of water or having someone tell you to lie down and rest for a while.
It felt like they were taking care of me. Giving me answers I needed. Making sense of this twentysomething life in a compassionate and grace-filled way, that coupled with the grace of family and friends, is helping me through a difficult season.
While I did not have time to go through all the journaling questions due to the book deadline, they are a rich resource for examination and prayer, and I would like to go back through them. I think they would maximize the impact of the book even further, as amazing as it was just reading it.
I highly recommend purchasing this and soaking in its truth and grace. It's one I definitely want to read again.
And if you have a twentysomething in your life, consider giving it to them. It would be a gift that blesses them in a lot of ways.
With wit and wisdom ranging from their own personal stories, Shakespeare, Winnie the Pooh and Scripture, the Worrall's lay out a foundation of faith and purpose for those seeking God's perspective and will for their lives. This book feels like sitting down with Peter & Kelli in their living room over a nice cup of British tea, sharing their wisdom and life lessons. I'm in my 30's, and God has used this book to speak directly into my life in powerful ways. The book is moving, honest, authentic and at times humorous. It has the feeling of discipleship mixed with solid Biblical teaching among the pages. In "20 Things", the Worrall's are beautifully transparent and honest, passing on the ways God has shaped and molded them both together and separately through both blessings and trials. This book is for anyone who is searching for what God has next, their purpose on the journey of faith, or advice on the path to becoming more like Christ. I cannot recommend it enough for anyone who is in a transitional time, seeking to firm up their foundation or get real with their faith.
As a side note, I highly recommend the audio book, as hearing the author's personal stories in their own words adds a level of personal connection and reliability.